Dele Alli’s Mental Health Struggles

In the mid-2010s English footballer Dele Alli was tipped to be one of the biggest stars of his generation. He was a key player both for his Premier League club, Tottenham Hotspur, and in over 30 international caps for England, and he was a two-time PFA Young Player of the Year. Off the field he exemplified the glamorous, high-profile lifestyle of the rich young athlete.

But his career over the last few years has been anything but stellar, and pundits could only speculate on how things had gone so badly wrong. The rot seemed to begin in 2019 when he fell out with his club manager, and he spent an unsuccessful spell at a club in Turkey before returning to the Premier League with Everton.

Now, in an revealing interview with ex-footballer Gary Neville, the 27-year-old Alli has a spoken publicly for the first time about his history of sexual abuse, adoption, drug addiction and, more recently, recovery.

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I Asked ChatGPT – Why Join a Men’s Group?

ChatGPT

Curious to finally see what all the fuss is about with AI and its most currently most newsworthy representation, I decided to ask ChatGPT a simple question. Here’s what it produced in just a few seconds.

Q: Explain why should I join a men’s group?

Joining a men’s group can provide a range of benefits for personal growth, support, and community. Here are some reasons why you might consider joining a men’s group:

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Men’s Groups

Remarkable Men's Groups

I’ve been in a men’s group since November 2018, meeting with seven (recently it became eight) other guys and the facilitator every other week, and it has literally changed my life because it’s opened me up to a whole other world of possibilities. It set me on a journey to finally, in my mid-to-late 50s, figure out and get in touch with who I am.

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Fathers Are More Present, But…

Father and baby

A recent article from the Guardian newspaper starts with a statement that captures the very essence of what Father Lessons is about:

Like many men of my generation, I wanted to be a more present father than my own had been.

Jeremy Davies

The writer talks about how, as a journalist, he was able to be a stay-at-home dad when his son was born some 20 years ago, but points out that he was very much the exception at the time in the UK. As a self-employed online business owner in Tokyo, I had that same opportunity and was pretty much the only father dropping off and picking up from daycare.

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