Where was I?

Five Rhythms

Life’s big distractions come in many shapes and forms. Some of them are challenging, like a change of job; some are joyful, like a new addition to the family; and some are grim, like a medical emergency or a death in the family. In my case, the distractions haven’t been anything too dramatic, and in various ways they have been both difficult and pleasant.

The less pleasant issue has been a second bout of adhesive capsulitis, more commonly known as frozen shoulder. Having had it in my right shoulder a few years ago, I’m familiar with how it progresses and how long it usually takes to heal. So, while I know that it most likely will eventually heal, the constant nagging ache and occasional excruciating stabs of pain have just worn me down over the last few months. Even with pain killers and heat patches, it’s disturbed my sleep, made me wary of even simple things like getting dressed or reaching for the salt with my left hand. It’s interrupted what had become a steady, regular practice of daily exercise. It’s been a bummer.

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But What is Deliverable?

Deliverable - Fragile, handle with care

Deliverable: “A deliverable is a tangible or intangible good or service produced as a result of a project that is intended to be delivered to a customer. A deliverable could be a report, a document, a software product, a server upgrade or any other building block of an overall project.”


Deliverable. It’s one of those terms that, as someone who has managed to avoid the corporate world, I have a natural aversion to. However, as I’ve struggled to figure out what the hell I’m trying to achieve with Father Lessons, I finally realised that it comes down to just that – what is deliverable. What can I actually deliver?

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Modern Masculinity

Modern Masculinity podcast

Fatherhood and masculinity are inseparable. Probably the main reason why more and more men are questioning their father-son relationships is that the boundaries, the rules, the expectations around masculinity have shifted or become blurred.

So this podcast series from The Guardian is sure to be of interest to anyone who’s interested in what I’m hoping to achieve here at Father Lessons (although, to be honest, I’m still in the process of figuring out exactly what that is!).


My Story (Part 3)

With my father at The Enterprise pub, 1986

I ended the last “episode” with a reference to my immaturity at the time that I went to college in my late teens, and that sense of not having properly, formally grown up has stayed with me ever since. I’ll sometimes have a vague feeling, something like what is these days called imposter syndrome, as if I’m a child who has somehow managed to wangle a seat at the adult’s table. Over the years, I’ve put it down to the idea of never having experienced the rite of passage from childhood into adulthood, the initiation and transition from boy to man.

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Talking about Grief

Stephen Colbert and Anderson Cooper

Everyone should watch this beautiful conversation about grief, suffering and gratitude between two men who lost their fathers at around the same young age. Be sure to watch all clips to get the full story!

In this day and age of constant social media chatter and distraction, it’s rare to come across an interview this honest, insightful and…”human.” It’s a great bit of TV but also very moving.