• Do you want to do a better job of raising your kids than your father was able to do with you?
  • Are there times when you think you’re letting your kids down, when you’re unsure of the right thing to do?
  • Have you read the self-help books and the parenting guides, but find that you’re still struggling with the fact that you just didn’t have a good role model?

Welcome to Father Lessons, where I will be asking people to share their wisdom, life lessons and insights about fatherhood, allowing you to assemble the toolkit that your father couldn’t give you.

I’ve done my best as the father of three kids and I’m proud of having done a lot of things right. But I’ve got a lot of things wrong, too. And I’ve rarely felt able to fall back on “What would my Dad have done?” In recent years, my relationship with my father has improved, and yet the little invisible barriers caused by past events and traumas – both his and mine – still stand in the way of true connection, healing and progress.

So, over the last few years, I’ve been on a journey to learn more about myself, my relationships and fatherhood. Along the way I’ve had some amazing and transformational experiences, and I’ve picked up practical lessons that have worked for others and stories that we can all learn from. I’ve trained as a Therapeutic MensWork Facilitator, am currently training as a Counsellor, and will soon be launching my own Men’s Group


  • Men’s Groups
    I’ve been in a men’s group since November 2018, meeting with seven (recently it became eight) other guys and the facilitator every other week, and it has literally changed my life because it’s opened me up to a whole other world of possibilities. It set me on a journey to finally, in my mid-to-late 50s, figure out and get in touch with who I am.
  • Fathers Are More Present, But…
    A recent article from the Guardian newspaper starts with a statement that captures the very essence of what Father Lessons is about. “Like many men of my generation, I wanted to be a more present father than my own had been.”
  • Mates – who needs them?
    “Some things get easier with age. The intensity of my friendships and the emotionally sharing nature of them has deepened.” Paul Daley If only that were true for all men. Particularly when we get into middle age and the balance of life starts to shift from infinite potential and novelty to mortality and loss, that’s when close friendships become all the more important.